Thursday, January 12, 2012


It is frequently said that the grief of bereaved parents is the most intense grief known. When a child dies, parents feel that a part of them has died, that a vital and core part of them has been ripped away. Bereaved parents indeed do feel that the death of their child is "the ultimate deprivation". 

The grief caused by our child's death is not only painful but profoundly disorienting-children are not supposed to die. We are forced to confront an extremely painful and stressful paradox; we are faced with a situation in which we must deal both with the grief caused by our child's death and with our inherent need to continue to live our own lives as fully as possible. We must deal with the contradictory burden of wanting to be free of this overwhelming pain and yet needing it as a reminder of Joaquim.


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